Have Embryos, Will Travel

FrostiesYesterday we transported our embryos from RMA of NJ to SIRM NY.

It was not a quick process. The transfer paperwork and coordination took a few months to complete, then plans needed to be made to synchronize the 2 labs (and pickup/dropoff times), next we had to schedule the day off work, and last drive through the Lincoln Tunnel 4 times in a 6 hour period.  At the final leg, we handed our 2 hard-earned-over-6-fresh-cycles PGS normal embryos directly to the head of embryology at SIRM. Today, she e-mailed me to let me know they both made it safely.    I am so relieved to have that process behind us.

Yesterday I realized I was not happy (nor comfortable) setting foot on RMA of NJ property. It dawned on me that I am harboring quite a bit of anger towards the clinic in general as well as our former RMA doctor, Dr. Morris.

She dropped the ball and she gave up on us.  In fact, for the last year of our cycle she was on a hardcore, restricted calorie diet and became difficult and rude.     She stopped calling.  She stopped following up.   She passed too many important conversations off to our nurse. In fact, her last voice mail to me said “there is nothing else we can do for you.”  However, she would of allowed us to cycle on the same crappy protocol over and over, just taking our $$ and not making any changes.

I know RMA of NJ is ranked as one of the best clinics in the country.  But be aware, it comes at a price.  It’s such a large facility that you could complete multiple IVF cycles and never see your actual doctor.   I would recommend that if you are planning to cycle at RMA of NJ, that you choose these 2 founding doctors:  Dr. Scott or Dr. Bergh, or Dr. Kim.      Especially if you are a difficult case.   Keep in mind though, in the end, they wanted nothing to do with our difficult case, well nothing but our money.

That’s a bitter pill to swallow after 6 IVFs, a failed FET of a PGS normal that I miscarried 9 weeks, and the donation of our entire savings.

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5 thoughts on “Have Embryos, Will Travel

  1. They are horrible and should be shut down. They are fine for women that don’t have issues but that’s it. They stole plenty of my money, and no baby to show for it. You will and are much better off leaving. I did a whole DE cycle no embryos/or baby. $ 20,000 later

  2. Hmm, unsettling stuff about RMA. I just read over my embryo shipment agreement from CCRM, and there’s a lot of scary language (i.e. half-wit airline employee doesn’t stand it safely upright and embryos thaw, die, etc.) plus this. I hate making decisions.

    But, sorry for your harrowing day and all it dredged up for you 😦 At least it’s behind you and I’m hopeful for your transfer!

  3. I am so happy your embryos are safe and the RMA chapter of your story is officially closed. I haven’t had the blinding terror you have had to endure with Immune issues, but I do know all too well the feeling of utter dejection and anger when a “respected” clinic decides you are a lost cause (while willing to suck your bank account dry). As pps said, it’s a new day now.

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